Flatmate from Hell

They are the worst of the species. Here are a few identifiers:
1. They will blame you for everything that's wrong in their life. Gaslighting you.
2. They will berate you constantly (while saying they can't live with negativity). 
3. The most psychopathic will berate you clinically passive aggressively.
4.  They will either try to aggressively be a part of your friend circle or try to alienate you from them. The method could be as simple as making the situation uncomfortable Everytime you have a guest over. These could be by:
(a) embarrassing you in front of them
(b) embarrassing them or being overtly inquisitive about them and making them uncomfortable.
(c) picking up fights with you every time after the guests leave on any topic ranging from how the guest is awesome but your character attracts aspersions by virtue of your company to even character assassination of your guests, whatever suits the purpose.
(d) etc.
5. They will constantly try to dominate all household decisions and be opaque to any negotiation. It's their way or the highway. Pro tip: Keep consumables separate. Do NOT, I repeat, do NOT share ration. 
6. They will try to keep tabs on your life. Who is your family? How much money do you have? Who are your friends? Where did you go? Why? What time roughly?
And that's just the tip of the iceberg. You will face KGB level interrogation on your movements out of the house. Even if you went merely to office, you will be targeted with suspicion about your reply of excess traffic in case of delay in arrival. Gentle reminder, this shall be generously coated with high doses of criticism of your sense of irresponsibility and insensitivity for about everything you did or didn't, including returning late to flat or staying out and oh how cruel and horrid it was of you to be absent as things got severely damaged in their life or the household in your absence, nay, because of your absence.
7. You will be expected or conned to pay wayyyy more than your share of rent, maybe in kind in terms of food, bills, etc. All the time while the flatmate claims to be financially cushioned.
Pro tip 2: Install group money sharing calculating/record keeping apps and keep recording and uploading shared expenses there. No matter how vehemently they object. Trust me, you will anyway end up paying much more even with it, so try and save the pennies. They may help for future expenses. Expenses like rehab from cruelty.

Well, to those who are in this Titanic, all the best. I will always be there in solidarity.  For the time being pray that may the Force be with me. I need it badly. Ciao.

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